It’s not always easy to share our truth. Especially if it may disappoint or hurt someone.
But what’s the cost of holding it in? What’s the price we pay for saying yes to something we don’t want to do? What’s the price of being bending over backwards for someone else instead of owning how we feel?
The cost is our emotional, physical and mental well-being.
And that’s just not a price I’m willing to pay.
I had two friends go into the hospital recently. Both realized that they got super sick because their bodies were literally holding years of resentment, thoughts and ideas that they didn’t dare express to their partners, family and friends.
Resentment can and does kill. Because our bodies are not designed to take years of emotional ignorance and abuse.
And that reminded me of all the years when I spent binge eating and stuffing my feelings down so that I wouldn’t feel them and express them.
It was so painful. And in retrospect, unnecessary.
Because what I’ve learned is that when I recognize and express my truth, every relationship in my life benefits. And those interactions that can’t welcome the authentic me, weren’t ones worth focusing on anyway.
In today’s LanaTV episode, I share my own struggles with authentic expression and why I’ve come to understand that honesty is always the best policy when it comes to admitting what I feel.
After you watch the video, I’d love to know:
Is there anything you have been holding on to and hiding because you’re too worried about the reaction if you express it? What is the cost of holding it in?
Then let me know if you’re ready to release it.
Admitting what you no longer want to hold in is the first and most important step. Because it’s a radical act of self-love.
And loving yourself will always serve you and those around you best.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Thank you Lana for sharing your pure heart and vital message with all of us. ❤️ It’s such very good advice. ?
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Thank you Barbara! It’s definitely a message many need to hear.
This is so true. I used to hold it in and my digestive track would get bloated and would hurt. Or worse use to resort to numbing (drinking) But now I rather go through the discomfort and express it with someone who is safe to share with. <3 love your videos girl
Yes, been there Vanessa! So glad you are self-loving enough to choose a little discomfort over huge pain.
I’d rather someone tell me a painful truth than find out later that they were a liar. Also… while I was on vacation recently my wonderful parents were doing some decorating at my house. My dad accidentally kicked over a bucket of paint somewhere that he hadn’t put down a cover sheet! He’s never done this in 50yrs! They felt so guilty they’ve spent hundreds trying to fix it so I wouldn’t know or so it wouldn’t inconvenience me when I got home. I’m more upset that they didn’t wait til I got home for me to claim on my insurance than I am about the damn carpets!
Isn’t it amazing how being open and honest about something is usually the best for everyone, Kim? Great example!
Just the day before watching this I found myself in a situation that required an act of honesty. I talked it through with a friend and really realized how important honesty is to me. Just the thought of trying to sneak around it, saying something that’s not completely true or avoiding the whole situation gives me a strong physical reaction that feels soo bad. I can feel the resentment and illness starting to build up in my body, and then a big release when I do what I gotta do and bring on the honesty. Being honest can be hard, but there’s really no other option.
My body gives me such strong reactions too Linnea. So glad we listen and follow our intuition instead of suffocating ourselves.
I always say honesty is the best policy!