I’m not sure when it happened, but somewhere along the way, self-love got a bad rap.
It’s almost as if someone decided that there was only so much love to go around, and that by serving up a piece of that pie to yourself first, you were leaving somebody else with less.
But what if there isn’t lack when it comes to love?
What if loving yourself actually creates more love to share with those around you? What if love was a completely self-generating and self-replenishing resource?
In today’s LanaTV episode I’m inviting you to give yourself permission to love, honor, and care for yourself first.
Not last. Not after the laundry gets done or after the work project gets finished. Not after you got so depleted, you became sick and resentful.
When you recognize and fulfill your needs, you are able to give freely and joyously from the overflow.
Then you are happy as you are serving others because you feel fulfilled.
When you give to yourself, you are giving life the green light to give more to YOU: more support, more resources, more opportunities, more abundance… more goodness!
Because self-love is the foundation of everything GOOD in your life.
I know it might seem counter-intuitive. You might be feeling like if you do that something else is going to drop. Someone else’s need might not get met.
I promise you will be surprised at how much more you’re able to give to the people you care about when you take that time to fill up your own cup first.
After you watch the video, I’d love to hear from you: what beliefs were you taught about self-love growing up? Have you ever tried truly putting yourself first?
Hi Lana!
I just love hear/see you talking…its feeling really good, its clarifying, and “a warm blanked of love”! Actually I am a big fan of you and your work (you know that already, right? =)
I also was told that we should please others first. And that “when I make others happy I make myself happy”, but that not true at all! When I make myself happy then I transform everything in happiness. I was told that thinking first in me is selfish, and in Portugese (Brasil) this word is even stronger because its came from “ego”: egoísta.
Only after a lot of years of making contact with me, and then others informations and teaching start to came in my experience (my old therapist that I love and I am go grateful for, amazing books, Louise Hay, Abraham-Hicks, you). Then I could start to think “wait, this way is not working for me or for people that I live with…that gone be other way to live!”.
Life is a journey, so we experience a lot. And when it is more conscious, start to be more fun (even when at the time we can’t see that). So, I start to try diferente toughs, exercises, ways to live. My world collapse a lot of times, but I was on my way for the first time. Little by little. Have had times that I give up, and try to do what I learn that was the correct way to live. But in a few hours I was miserable. So I could see and experience by my own that if we follow which is supposed to be right, and what others are telling you that is the right way, without feeling that is YOUR right way, your happiness doesn’t happend.
I still am own my journey to allow myself to be who I am more and more. And this topic of your video is one of the biggest point of my days. I worry a lot about what other people are going to think of me, os my decisions and behaviors. If my beloveds ones are going to be happy and still love me no matter what. The difference is that in this days I know that I am more then this body, the power of my being and mind. So as you say: “I stop, drop and realign”, and follow my heart, my guide system. Its hard some times, but my search is no longer to aprove of others, it is to align with my well being. Then I know and trust that everything will follow.
Love,
Laís
What beautiful clarity, Lais! Thank you for sharing. And thank you for daring to be a bright light and shine your self-love loud and proud! That’s how we dispel the darkness and pain in this world, by healing ourselves first. Sending you big love!!!
Great episode Lana. Growing up, I always saw my mom busting her butt to provide for me and my brother. It’s been normal for me to always think of other people first. I still do it sometimes. It’s like, she did so much for us I now should do xy or z. It’s a work in process…
Thank you for talking about this.
I’m a work in progress too Mindy. Certainly understanding that the more love I receive, the more love I can circulate has been super helpful. So glad you enjoyed this LanaTV episode!