Recently I Googled for quotes on ease and was shocked that I couldn’t find any that promoted ease as a good thing. I mostly found quotes like this one:

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.” – Hellen Keller

And this one:

“This is no time for ease and comfort. It is time to dare and endure.” – Winston Churchill

Shoot, no wonder most people don’t focus on having more ease and flow in their lives.

Apparently, if we want to succeed and win in life we must struggle, fight and endure. Or do we?

How come some walk through a nightmare and see opportunities instead of challenges?

Why is it that some people call their toughest experiences the most magnificent learning triumphs and others call them horrors that left them feeling like grieving victims?

And most importantly, why do some seem to walk gracefully through life, seemingly untouched by life’s formidable situations, while for others feel that their happiness is at the mercy of their mood, circumstances or fate?

The masters knew this years ago and I am here to remind you.

Our perception of the situation, not the actual situation, determines the outcome.  It is absolutely possible to walk through life enjoying all the highs and moving through the lows with grace and appreciation.

Got in a fender bender? Thank goodness everyone is ok and just some metal got bent! I love my health! I love how protected I am! I love how this situation is helping me remember to slow down and be more present. Thank you.

Your client, boss or partner was rude? What they think and say is their business, but what I think about them is my business.  I don’t have to take it personally. And I now know that I want to be more gentle with myself so I never treat myself or anyone else this way. Thank you.

A perfect story to exemplify fighting something versus moving through it with ease and grace is an experience I will never forget. I took a class at Agape Spiritual Center and one of the exercises we were asked to do is say “thank you” no matter what someone said.

First we were instructed to say nice things to each other. It was fairly easy for most of us to say thank you to compliments. But then the teacher told us to practice saying mean things to each other and still say thank you. We found that to be much harder.

As we struggled to put this into practice, our instructor told us a story of an experience she had demonstrating this exercise several years prior.

She instructed a student to tell her something that she may have an emotional reaction to. So he turned to her, a gorgeous black woman, and said:

“You’re nothing but an uppity n**ger.”

She said that her whole world stopped for a moment, but she took a deep breath and said “thank you.”

Not because she agreed with his statement. Not because it wasn’t a huge blow. But because she was not going to indulge someone’s ignorance and lose her well-being over it.

With that exercise she was showing us (and herself) what it’s like to move through life in ease by not allowing others’ words and actions rattle us and stop us from being kind, loving and compassionate.

Ease does not mean easy, simple, boring, lazy or weak.

To live in ease takes powerful clarity, vision, focus and trust. It is definitely NOT for the lighthearted.

It takes strength and conviction to not follow our initial emotions and get carried by the currents of hurt, disappointment, jealousy or anger. It takes practice, but we can learn to go through life, facing the good and bad and all of the challenges without the struggle and strife.

To feel ease in any circumstances is to have become a master of your life.

I have been personally focusing on ease in my life for the last 5 years and I can’t even begin to tell you how much the quality of my life has improved. I now know that well-being has many shades, flavors and colors, and that I can find a way to enjoy something about each one.

I see everyone and everything in my life as a mirror to myself and therefore do not see the need to fight anything.

After all, when I change my expression, the reflection in the mirror must change as well. One of the main ways that I’ve trained myself to relax into ease and flow is through meditation.

But after I had my twins, I didn’t have 30-minutes to sit on a cushion to clear my mind. That’s when I began doing short meditations throughout the day and was amazed to see what a huge difference even just 3 minutes of deep breaths and deliberate relaxation made!

Because I know so many struggle to find free time, I’ve created a 4-minute meditation to make it as easy as possible for you and I to tap into ease and flow.

“I love the ease meditation! It’s completely transformed my mornings! I used to have huge anxiety, with my heart pounding and feeling like I’m choking and it’s so amazing to now feel, well… SANE!” – Shelley Blair, Canada

Now you can tune into ease ANYTIME and ANYWHERE. Since debuting the meditation, I’ve received raving feedback on it and I’d love for you to try it out!

“Wow, Lana, you have no idea how much the guided meditation has helped me! Now my days have such an amazing start. There’s so much growth, so many manifestations in my life… it’ll take me forever to write about it! I  recommend this to every person who gets up in the morning, i.e. EVERYONE! ” – Mor Leibovich, Israel

To receive exclusive access to the 4-minute Accessing Ease Meditation, just drop your name and email in the box below this post.

And now I’d love to hear from you!

Do you believe that you need to struggle in order to succeed?  Where in your life would you like more ease? What are your favorite ways to tap into the feeling of allowing and flow? I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!

In Ease,

Lana